Frequently Asked Questions

Pureheart offers standard individual counseling but now also offers group counseling. We strongly recommend you consider group counseling for the following reasons:

1) Scripture says the “the eye cannot say to the hand, I don’t need you.” In other words, you and I were designed to be part of a team, to fight and work together as brothers and sisters rather than attempting to achieve purity as Lone Rangers.

2) Group counseling provides you with ongoing accountability in the form of your BOB (Band of Brothers) group. There is no point in getting free via individual counseling if you cannot maintain your purity after counseling is done. You need to maintain your purity just as much as you need to break free.

3) Since your BOB group meets online, once counseling is done you have ongoing accountability for the rest of your life because no matter where you move to, you can always login and checkin with your brothers online. Local groups come and go precisely because people move and/or drop out and you are yet again left alone and vulnerable to relapse.

4) During Pureheart counseling typically everyone gets free in our groups (or almost everyone) so your brothers’ success reinforces your own.

5) Finally, an online Pureheart group (where you have already spent a year bonding with your brothers) is far more confidential than a group, say, at your local church where it is much more difficult to maintain confidentiality because there are many interconnected relationships.

We counsel people across the country and internationally via online video via Zoom. We were doing online counseling many years before COVID and have found it to be just as effective as face-to-face counseling. Indeed, online counseling is often more confidential than having to visit an office, it allows for more flexibility in scheduling, and you save money in terms of gas and traveling time.

We see a lot of victory and transformation through our counseling. For example, I (Timothy) have personally successfully counseled literally 300 plus men in the last 2 decades alone and helped save over 150 marriages from divorce. These men ranged from your basic porn/masturbation addiction to men who had slept with prostitutes hundreds of times but no matter the depth of their addiction, these men have achieved amazing results in their sobriety and more importantly their walk with God. A number of these brothers’ marriages were literally on the verge of divorce but, praise God, these marriages were saved and the husband-wife relationship deeply transformed.

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As a non-profit we seek donations to help us keep the cost of counseling affordable. Our prices range from $70 to $100 per weekly session depending on the counselor’s level of experience. We require weekly sessions for all our counseling. Pureheart interns are currently obtaining their Masters in Counseling at local seminaries and all receive theological graduate-level training as well as practical training in leading others through the Pureheart Process. Pureheart interns charge less for sessions but they may or may not be available at the time you call. Typically most Pureheart counselors have worked as pastors (or are currently pastors) and have earned Masters of Divinity degrees and/or Masters of Counseling degrees from Christian institutions.

Short answer to a long story. No, we don’t take insurance

1) Most people don't want "sexual addiction counseling" on their permanent insurance/medical history records.

2) We would have to charge more since the insurance companies want their cut.

3) The insurance companies want to tell us how to counsel people.

4) They usually only pay for a limited number of sessions.

5) Most important of all, you need to pay the price for your freedom, not some anonymous company. Taking responsibility for one's addiction and paying the price to get free is a key component of recovery. If you can’t find $55 to $90 a week for your purity and spiritual maturity then you really aren’t ready to get free yet

If you are in counseling for purity issues, expect to be in counseling for year, give or take a few months. We have a lot to teach you and model for you in the Pureheart Process and the ability to stay sober over a long period of time is one of the key tests of sobriety. Any addict can achieve sobriety for several months if they try real hard but as you already know, willpower alone is not sufficient. For the wives of sexually addicted husbands we recommend at least six-months counseling with either Jena or Patricia.

We expect honesty from you—you can’t break free if you continue lying and covering up your sin. We expect a serious commitment to see the process through from beginning to end. Addicts are usually great at starting things but we want people who will finish the race and not drop out just because you think you are cured after 3 months of successful sobriety. We expect you to do your homework each week, show up for your weekly sessions on time, and pay your bill weekly. We are successful in part because we offer no magic pill or instant 60 day cure but just plain old-fashioned hard work that really works. Recovery, sobriety, and spiritual maturity are not achieved by sprinting to the finish line but instead are earned by a methodical marathon of steady progress that ultimately leads to complete transformation.

Again, long story short. We have 3 Phases to be accomplished in our counseling.

Purity: Here we teach you how to kill your external sexual addiction behaviors like masturbation, porn, and sexual acting out while adding positive disciplines like daily devotions, exercise, family time, accountability, etc. In the long run doing the positive is far more important than obsessing about breaking free of addictive behaviors (almost every addict makes this initial mistake).

Maturity: Here we help you discover the internal brokenness that drives your external addictive behaviors. This is another classic addict mistake—attempting to quit an addiction without ever taking the time to figure out the driving force powering the addiction. Something is broken inside of you and until you figure that out you will always be an addictive accident waiting to happen. As we work on internal discovery we also mentor you spiritually because if your heart is full of God it becomes easy to resist temptation, plus we teach you practically how to win the war of spiritual warfare (something the vast majority of Christian counselors completely ignore).

Destiny: This is the fun part. Now that you are starting to walk in consistent purity and heal your internal hurts, your relationship with God really starts to take off. Now you can finally discover why God put you on this planet—you have a God-given destiny and calling and nothing will ever be more fulfilling for you than discovering your destiny and then walking in it.

The bad news is you need to take sexual sin very seriously. Read Scripture yourself. God does not tolerate sexual sin; there is no compromise in His Word. Purity is absolutely essential to intimacy with God. And yet we live in a world and in a time when sexual sin is everywhere and instantly accessible.  Furthermore you will lose everything if you continue in your addictive behaviors; sexual sin is progressive, you keep getting worse and worse, it is the nature of all addictions. I could tell you horror stories of people who have lost their marriages, their kids, their jobs, their money, and worst of all their relationship with God for the sake of sexual sin. And of all addictions, sexual addiction maybe the hardest to break (you can pull up sexual thoughts in your brain anytime you want). The vast majority of people—I am talking to you—will not break free on their own.

The good news? We have been there and done that. Pureheart counselors were abused and abandoned and addicted just like you. We have been addicted to masturbation, we paid for pornography, and we cheated on our wives or endured adulterous affairs. We understand the magnetic pull of perversion and yet by God’s grace we now walk in consistent purity and our relationships with God and our families have never been better. We will empathize with you and feel your pain and yet we will also walk our talk and model for you the process of breaking addictive behaviors, healing your hurts, and growing up as a man or woman of God. The truth really does set people free—we are living proof of this fact.