Testimonies
At Pureheart we believe in leading by example so CLICK HERE if you would like to read Timothy’s Testimony. Timothy has overcome childhood sexual abuse, ritual abuse, serious sexual addiction, demonization, depression, and PTSD so he knows what life is like down in the pit and yet, by the grace of God, he now walks in purity, maturity, and victory. (You can read more of his story in his 2nd book, Special Ops! Vols. 1 and 2).
The following testimonies (summarized) are from current and former Pureheart counselees in both individual and group counseling. Most of these men and women have broken free and now walk in consistent purity and/or healed marriages but some are still in process. These brothers and sisters, married and single, represent a wide spectrum of ages, races, nationalities, denominations, backgrounds, personalities, and levels of addiction and dysfunction but all of them have changed dramatically. If they can change, so can you! For obvious reasons, we have changed their names. Here are their stories (unedited)!
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Married Men’s Testimonies
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Brother “Adam’s” Testimony, Age 54, Married
I would like to start with this. If you are serious about breaking the bondage of your addiction this is the book for you. If you are only trying to satisfy your wife or requirements of your ministry position to not lose what you have, you need to check your motives again before reading it. There is no room for a façade as you start this journey. Not to say that you cannot have doubts or are still really wondering if you can be free, but if your motivation is that you will do this to get through the storm at least be honest with yourself and with Tim. One of the first things I remember Tim saying to me is that he can help addicts but he cannot help liars. Be honest with yourself, with Tim and with God with where your heart is.
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Brother “Mario’s” Testimony, Age 65, Married
8 years ago my life was at rock bottom and my marriage was on the verge of ending. As someone who swam in the deep end of the pool, I was definitely working my way to self-destruction. Through hard work and using the weapons Pureheart has equipped me with I continue to find freedom from my sexual addiction. I’m happy to report no major relapses in 8 years, no porn, masturbation, or any kind of acting-out with a woman, praise God!
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Brother “Henry’s” Testimony, Age 75, Married
For the first time in my life, I recognized that I needed help and it was non-existent in my local church and counselling community, Christian and secular. But God directed my path to Pureheart Ministries in April 2019, and I am so grateful for the redemptive and transformative leadership of Tim Davis and the curriculum and counselling he has developed that has equipped me to live pure and holy once again.
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“I grew up in a Christian home. God has always been an important part of my life. I was baptized at age 11. But I started down a path of pornography addiction at 13. . . I spent 20 years addicted to internet pornography. It eventually took a toll on my ability to function as a healthy person. It took a toll on my marriage. It took a toll on my ability to be productive. But its greatest toll was on my spiritual relationship with God and I carried an overwhelming burden of guilt in secret.”
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“Group counseling is the best solution for recovery! You’re combining individual counseling with a group of brothers to do life with. You get to learn from each other, you get to encourage each other and be encouraged. You get to learn from men younger and older than you, men wiser than you and learn from their mistakes as well. In a group you can let your guard down and be real with these brothers because you are all in the same boat. There is no guilt, shame or judgment since all we have to do is look back at our pasts and be humbled.”
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About three months ago, my wife caught me in the act of watching porn. In that moment she came face to face with my problem and decided that she could not continue to watch me struggle. Unknowingly, my sin had slowly been draining the love and the life from her. But I remained in denial until she left our house—bags packed, dog in-tow—two weeks later. It was in that moment of intense pain that I had a choice to make. God had brought me to the end of myself. I had exhausted my manipulation, and my schemes to keep my problem hidden had failed. I had to decide to either plead to God for His mercy and to follow Him, or to turn fully to my sin, never to regain my confidence as a man and possibly never to regain my marriage.
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Tim was brutally honest time after time; he called it like it was but always with grace. I learned fast that we had to take sin seriously because God did, but that if we looked for and asked for God’s help he would be there. I learned how my perspective on God, sex, family, and life was twisted by the devil and my addiction; leaving me literally unable to mature mentally, spiritually, or emotionally. The most powerful part of the journey so far has been rediscovering my emotions and giving them a voice. It has been such a relief to no longer suffer under the lie that men don't feel and never cry. I can talk about how I feel and recognize when to hold on taking action because my emotions are flaring.
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“The resulting changes have been major and, in my opinion, almost miraculous. With the help of prayer and continued Pureheart counseling, I have maintained 9 months of sexual “sobriety,” my wife has moved back home, and I have a new-found peace, joy and freedom that I have always yearned for. My relationship with her is now based on mutual honesty, respect and love, and we are happier than we have been in many years. In fact, we recently had a small, intimate vow-renewal ceremony at our church celebrating 33 years of marriage, followed by a second honeymoon!”
Single Men’s Testimonies
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I was saved in 1981 at a large Charismatic church in Florida. I was drawn to the church after seeing these happy and upbeat individuals in the Restaurant I was managing at the time, in a Theme Park in Florida. They were attending a Christian concert in the park, and I remember saying to myself - I’ve never seen Christians having genuine fun like this, so I asked one of the people in their group where they went to church. I visited the church and I went down and accepted Christ after my second visit…My walk with the Lord was “on fire” for the first several years until I met a young lady who was not a Christian - but I thought I could handle leading her to the Lord and just date her. Well, she did accept Christ - but we fell into sexual sin and we did get engaged, but after almost 2 years things didn’t work out.
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“I am single, 25 years old, and have been addicted to pornography since my mid to late high school years…Despite all my efforts to free myself, I couldn’t. I was so addicted that I could find a way to get aroused and masturbate. I had multiple triggers as well: anger, jealousy, binge eating, self-loathing, stress. My relationship with my dad was terrible and I had so much anger towards him…During this serious low point, that friend I mentioned earlier, decided to try counseling, and that is what motivated me to seek out counseling as well. I came across Pureheart from doing some searches online… “
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“As a single man I now have 14 months of consistent purity. . . I’m so grateful for the work God has done in my life. I’m a new man. I actually pursue God, not run and hide from him. I read my Bible and pray almost daily. I set goals and believe in myself. My communication has improved and I’m beginning to build healthy Christ-like relationships with women because there isn’t a barrier of shame. ”
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“Best of all, I am now engaged to be married. I have been completely honest with my fiancé about my past—she also helps keep me accountable. We have stayed pure in our relationship and have been careful not to cross the line. Thanks to Pureheart, I can give my future wife the gift of a pure, self-controlled, and faithful husband! I highly recommend Pureheart! ”
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“I have only been counseling for 5 months, but already I have made some real progress. . .I found out about Pureheart through the Internet. I now have hope that I can be pure again, my relationship with God is growing again, and I am renewing friendships with people I haven’t talked to in years. . .My thought life is getting cleaned up as well, and I have real hope that I learn to walk in constant purity for the rest of my life.”
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“I was sick of the cycle of shame and guilt that I was going through. I was starting to serve as a youth leader at a local church, and I felt like a hypocrite since my thought life was such a mess. I had been in three different peer-led accountability groups as a teen, and all of them had disbanded when we kept failing and eventually hiding our sexual sins. Hearing Tim and Jay speak jolted me awake, and gave me hope that I could really be transformed on the inside.
Pureheart has made standing up against temptation and oppression a reality for me. Instead of just shoving information down my throat and saying “You should do this,” Pureheart has walked me through step by step, encouraging me to confess routinely to Christian brothers, speak truth into each other’s lives, pray for each other, and support one another throughout the week. My identity in Christ has been ingrained into me. I now know the difference between a spiritual attack and a fleshly desire, and how I can practically deal with both. .”
Men In Ministry Testimonies
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It was late at night while I was on a business trip. I felt the temptation that often followed after an exhausting weekend where I spent myself on a seminar or another presentation. I reached over and picked up my smart phone, also known as the devil’s vice. I started scrolling through video’s and images online which led me down a trail all too familiar…
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Ten months ago, I was on the mission field, and at the end of my rope. . .The most important steps for me in this recovery process has been dealing with the spiritual aspect of sexual immorality. This is a fight not against flesh and blood, but against powers and principalities. It is not something I am going to win by physically trying to (though that is a part of it). The main part of this fight is fought spiritually.
Other than keeping a consistent devotional life, the most effective part of the process for me was forming a lasting network of weekly accountability, of which my wife is included. Knowing I will be checking in every week not only reminds me to do my devotionals and other goals, but it is also a huge deterrent to flirt around with lust.
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“How did I ever get to this place,” was the thought rolling through my mind. I was sitting on the edge of the tub in the bathroom of my motel room contemplating taking my own life…
At that moment the emptiness of where my decisions had led me completely overshadowed any light that I could see. I cried out repeatedly through the tears, “Lord, take my life, or take this sin!” What I was really hungering for in that moment was freedom from the sexual sin that ate at me from the inside out over decades of indulgence. I didn’t know it at the time, but redemption was close at hand even though I couldn’t see it in that moment. “
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“I grew up in a conservative Christian family in _______, where my parents were missionaries. We had fun together as a family, even though the mission my parents served with was noticeably legalistic. Because of this legalism, one topic, sex, was never discussed. “
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“One year ago, I was at a near breaking point. My marriage was suffering. My personal devotional life was almost non-existent. I was leading the church from a place of timidity and shame. I didn’t want to challenge people too boldly because I knew I wasn’t able to see the change in my own life. The worst thing of all was preaching and seeing my wife sitting on the front row. She was in so much pain, and I knew she knew what was going on inside of me. I felt like a fake but I couldn’t help it.”
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Married Couple’s Testimonies
Hearing from the husband and the wife
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From “David” - Overall, I could not be any happier with the lifesaving help I received from Pureheart. I’ve been pure for over 16 months now and I’ve never felt better. Literally, I feel like a new man!
From “Patricia” - “Overall, I am thrilled with the changes I have seen in my husband, and I praise God every day for the blessing of Pureheart Ministry in our lives. Fourteen years of emotional hurts do not go away overnight, but I will say that our marriage is well on the road to being the best and most stable it has ever been! With the tools and foundation my husband has acquired from Pureheart, and with continued help from the Lord, we are finally living the life God always desired for us. The Lord is faithful, indeed!”
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From “John Doe” - “This is what my life is like now: I am no longer hiding; there is no secrecy in my life, nothing hiding on my computer, and no secret life. There is nothing between my God and me, and nothing between my wife and me. I love living in transparency, living in the light. I no longer need to look over my shoulder, wondering who will find some trace of my sin; I'm no longer paranoid of getting caught. I'm in the light, and I love it! I am free indeed in Jesus Christ. My past is nailed to a tree and buried in a tomb!”
From “Jane Doe” -“Thanks to Pureheart Ministries, my husband is a changed man. Because of the tools and counseling that he has been provided, he has a new identity in Christ and a revised perspective on his role in our marriage. The biggest benefit for me as his wife has been the restoration of trust in our relationship. Having complete trust in my husband is a newfound freedom for me. “
Wives’ Testimonies
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“Our marriage is significantly better. We have always had fun together, but we are having more fun than ever. He has become my best friend. We continue to work on emotional intimacy After all, 28 years of being emotionally disconnected does not turn around overnight, but we are closer than we’ve ever been. There are no more secrets! I know that he is open and honest with me about everything. He checks in with me weekly (as well as with Tim) and he has been pure for a year now!”
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“Jena (Pureheart Counselor) helped me to process my anger and pain. Through talking with Jena, I learned to look to God for my strength, healing and the ability to forgive. My marriage survived the darkest time we had ever been through and I am stronger now because of it.”
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"In the midst of an incredibly difficult and confusing time, navigating the deep waters of my husband's addiction to pornography, I've found much needed stability, wisdom and encouragement through counseling at Pureheart Ministries.”